We all have aspects of ourselves we would rather not know about. As kids, we may have been taught that it wasn’t okay for us to be bossy, selfish, angry, or boastful. By the time we are adults, we have tucked those traits away, and are adept at being “nice,” or “good.”
When we become parents, we may be dismayed to notice that our children act out our most despised qualities with gusto! In fact, those disallowed qualities are often full of vitality and authenticity. Seeing our child express these forbidden traits can help us reconnect with their positive aspects.
In this webinar, we will use fairy tales, dreams, memoirs, and clinical vignettes to explore how our kids can help us find the gold in those devalued and disallowed parts of ourselves.
Often, the behaviors in our children that we find the most embarrassing or irritating relate to qualities or traits that we learned were not acceptable when we were children. Seeing our children act out these qualities can be difficult, but can also provide a way for us to reclaim the positive aspects of these traits.
Many times, those parts of ourselves that we learned were unacceptable are in fact important for accessing a sense of joy and aliveness.
Originally posted on PsychCentral.com.